Loneliness and emotional trauma can leave even the strongest guy feeling downright helpless. When a girl breaks up a guy, it’ll leave him lost, confused, and he’ll try to figure out what went wrong.
Guys will whine about how “you don’t understand” telling themselves that the girl who left them is “the one.” Those kinds of guys need a serious wake up call. The feeling of loneliness sucks, and you’ll definitely feel empty and drained of energy. This doesn’t mean you have to act like a loser.
You need to pick yourself up. You can listen to all of your sad songs and look at all of the pictures your relationship had but nothing will change.
Breakups bring out the worst possible feeling for a dude. I know people who’ve throw up after their long time girlfriend breaks up with them. I myself know the rejection of being into a girl, but then face heartbreak and abandonment.
Don’t make the mistake of “trying to win her back” or acting like a “super nice guy” to “fight for her love” or whatever silly tip someone told you about a relationship. I’ve picked myself back up after a harsh breakup, and now I’m with a girl who’s worthy of my time. If my current girlfriend decides she wants out, these are the tips I’ll follow:
1. Get over yourself, she’s not the one
If she was the one she wouldn’t have trashed the relationship. She’d still be with you, but obviously your crying yourself to sleep still thinking there’s a way back.
Here’s the thing, if she broke up with you once, she’ll do it again. Don’t use this “take time off” excuse to just wait for her like a puppy. She’s likely out playing the field while your back home alone- “respecting her decision.”
2. Get your crybaby self into the gym
Instead of heading to the grocery store to restock on more ice cream, you can throw yourself into enthusiasm and energy. You should call up one of your friends and make plans to workout 5:30 AM the next morning.
A lot of guys cleverly use all of their feelings of loneliness and pour it out on their effort in the gym. A post break up situation is the perfect time to go extra hard in running, lifting, swimming or whatever it is you do. Transform yourself so the next time she see’s you, she’ll kick herself asking “why did I let him go..?????.”
Plus you need to clean up your act to present yourself for all the new dates you’re about to hit up.
3. Don’t you dare contact her
Time is the most valuable non renewable resource we all have If you contact her you’ll just be wasting everyones time. Don’t walk up to her with your head down asking “are you sure you want to do this?” Don’t stare at your phone ready for her call. Don’t passively communicate with her through all of your mutual friends or whatever stupid game people play these days.
She’s the one who cut off the relationship, so get out of there. As I mentioned before, she likely already has a line of guys ready to get with her. Go start up your line of girls.
4. Get out there
If you let your relationship swallow up and take up all of your time with your friends, it’s time to build those relationships back up. First off, it’s lazy of you to let your friends drift off far for so long. That shouldn’t have even happened when you were with Miss Heartbreak in the first place.
The key to getting over loneliness or depression is to stay productive. If going out and partying non stop with your friends is your territory to get over someone, then get after it.
Don’t try to jump on board into another relationship right away. If that one also crashes you’ll be in an even deeper mess. Start off slow and just say “hi” to the new girls you’ll meet when you go out.
5. Learn from your mistakes
Your girlfriend left you for a number of different reasons, but in the end there must’ve been some quality about you that led her to pull the trigger. You’re also aware of your own flaws. Take this time and newfound freedom to drastically improve yourself.
It may seem hopeless now, but someday you’ll find another girl you’ll want to start another relationship with. Take your past mistakes and improve upon them. You’ll have to work hard if you want a new girlfriend.
This doesn’t mean go out and build your life specifically for a girl. You’ve got to focus on yourself and rebuild your confidence. The girls will come to you when you’re immersed in your own life.
6. When she tries to come back to you, say NO
She broke up with you for her own reason. When you finally pick yourself back up and transform yourself, don’t be surprised if she tries to come in contact with you again. Remember, you’ve got to cut off all the contact and don’t play any games. You don’t have time and energy to put yourself through all of that torment again.
Get over yourself. Get over her. Break ups will leave you drained, but this is also an exciting time for opportunity.
Don’t let this negative energy consume you. Rebuild yourself from the ground up and cut out all of the nonsense. Naturally, you’re going to experience a period of pain; this feeling will pass and when you find someone worthy of your time, you’ll realize how this situation made you stronger.