Remember, people change. Don’t be quick to assume someones story or background. When you mindlessly judge people, you’ll shoot yourself right in the foot. You never know when the person you judge turns out to be the tutor or mentor you need to succeed in the future. There are unlimited networking opportunities available to us, and we sometimes can’t tell when they’ll happen. Judging others is just an invitation for disaster.
Especially when we are young, people go through a lot of different phases and changes. This is all a part about how people find themselves, and figure out their strengths and weaknesses in the world.
Judging others or outright insulting them before you know the facts will bite you back. You may have already experienced this from either the offense or defensive end of things. It’s a natural action that we all take. In fact, someone may have judged you in the past, and those words still stay with you today…long after the insulter forgot those words themselves.
Looks and the color of your skin shouldn’t lead to direct conclusions. It’s about whether you put in the work for yourself and take action, or whine about being a victim.
Why would you waste more time crying about how someone insulted you, when you could prove those people wrong and work on yourself? Arguing with people when they hurt your pride will only lead to an abundance of negative energy. Don’t follow these people, don’t fall into the trap of judging others back.
For my first summer job, I worked part time as a busboy for a local restaurant.
“You drove busses around?”
I worked from 4pm until closing, and most of this time was spent interacting with the public. For starters, when people go to restaurants they’re obviously there to not do work. They want to make themselves at home, without cleaning up or doing the dishes etc. The hours were long, but yet I still learned a handful of skills on how to deal with people. I’m not allowed to demean any customer. Since this was my first job, I didn’t have a clue about how people might judge me or treat me. I gained a new perspective about judging others.
In a restaurant job you’ll deal with random outbursts or complaints from the people. You’ll find yourself confused at situations, and then laugh at it entirely in the end.
On Father’s day, the restaurant was packed with a ton of people. Families came down to the buffet section, and the restaurant knew that it would be hectic. This was only my second day of being hired; I wasn’t ready for the craziness. That day was exhausting…but a couple of phrases really stuck out to me during that day.
When people wanted my attention they would guess that I spoke Spanish, or simply call me by “Jose” or “Juan.” I have a brown skin tone but I am not hispanic. People make mistakes, but this still sticks with me today.
Why are people quick to assume and guess about someone?
I laugh about this moment about being called “Juan” or asked to clean up their table in spanish. Throughout my life people always thought I was Hispanic in some way, I don’t blame them. My last name is “Reyes” and I do carry a somewhat hispanic look. Most of the workers at this restaurant are hispanic, but this shouldn’t be an excuse for people to assume anything.
This behavior didn’t bother me as much throughout the day. It was back in the kitchen when I really found myself irritated with assumptions. One of the waitresses asked if I could read english with a mocking tone. I’m a working college student for New York University, and I’ve lived in America for my entire life. She had no right to mock me, and sadly this type of judging behavior still continues today. I somehow had the patience to not burst out into anger; this would be a waste of time and energy. Instead I firmly said yes and then continued with my work. I didn’t have time or energy to be around her anymore. I laughed it off later…
I could’ve easily just burst out in anger
When was a time you felt judged by someone?